A people pleaser is not a peace maker, but rather a peace lover. A peacemaker is willing to endure the discomfort of conflict in the hope of bringing about a peaceful resolution. ( Peace not only is the absence of conflict, but is often the result of it.) A peace lover is so afraid of conflict that he will avoid it at almost all costs. He is so concerned with keeping the peace with his fellow man that he is often willing to forfeit the peace of God that comes from standing up and suffering for the truth. He is essentially a coward at heart.” ( People pleasing p 25 Lou Priolo)
The people pleaser overreacts to any hint of disapproval. He feels a pinprick as keenly as a knife in the back. He is overly sensitive because he is too concerned about his own glory ( and popularity). He sees any constructive criticism or suggestion for improvement as a threat to his reputation rather than as an opportunity to grow or as an indication of the reprover’s love for him. ( p 31 ibid )
